Marriage distribution in Singapore

Just weeks ago, it is reported on The Newspaper of the marriage patterns in Singapore. As you can see the numbers can be quite disturbing where 78% of male married after 50 and most woman married after 30 also makes up a huge percentage.

The report also mentioned that the female at 30yo don’t really mind going after a 50yo guy. And as such that, it brings question on whether the government policy to promote pro-create might work. In addition, having to cope with a greying population might be a social issue for the latter generation. Well, unless the future generation work hard to push the numbers else this trend will continue. With the norm of couples wanting to enjoy life and the pro-company policy in Singapore. It can be quite hard for couple to want to have a bigger family with so much insecurity.

Just to add on, this report miss out on some interesting facts. For example the nationality the that Singaporeans are married too. In the case of induction of sportsman around the world, would this be the case for Singaporeans where the guys will look for Vietnam brides and the ladies for the Ang Mohs (White)?

Tianhong, a NTU-Undergrad Google user and slavery of jsp-servlet, is a freelance contributor for Plaktoz.com

Marriage

Just found out one of my friend is filing for divorce. Reason behind is that his wife is not ready to settle down, especially with a kid. I saw her once and find her quite hot. Oops. Well, both of them are only around 22. I believe part of the reason is also that my friend could not provide her with a sense of security as he was working odd jobs during that period though right now he’s been promoted to a shift manager in Starbucks.

Though marriage and age did not or should not have any correlationship. Few hundreds years ago, woman is married at the age of 11-12. That is considered the norm at that time. In the current context, girls getting married at 24-26 and guys at 28-30 seems to be the most optimal combination. The reason behind such a jump in age from few hundreds years ago is partly because of financial reasons and woman’s ability to have her own career.

I oppose the idea of early marriage simply based in ”deeply in love”. Because someone told me relationship base on love is just not enough. And to be so anxious in marriage, part of the psychology is for one to tie another person down. But through marriage? If that step is needed, than the marriage is doomed to fail.

There are so many aspect to have a marriage work out. Especially finance. Even though woman are more than capable to support themselves, but their desire to feel a sense of security has never changed. Reason for that feeling differ from woman to woman and it can be the height or the finance of the guy. And finance is a touchy issue and it requires an alignment of both party or it will always be a problem for couple.

So what is marriage to most people? Marriage can be thought of just a certificate to carry out sexual activities. Well that’s what some said. But do we even need it if sex, since it is so common nowadays, is used as a reason for two to get married?

Marriage is still needed because it represent the commitment for two person to be with each other for the rest of their life when that piece of paper (certificate of marriage) still stand. It is a symbol for couples to know that they have the responsibility for each other as the marriage is recognized by law.

Since I’m not at that path yet (though walking towards that path), I feel it’s still best for couple to take their time, to know more about each other and to know that commitment to settle down with that other half is for life. It’s a choice, a  lifelong responsibility one have to take.